A few articles, blog posts, and other things I think are worth your time.
The Atlantic: Stop Spending Time on Things You Hate
Fast Company: Why The “Velvet Hammer” Is a Better Way to Give Constructive Criticism (Food for thought. I’m not sure it would work in all situations. I can think of some where it would just sound disingenuous, but it could work in other situations or people, like Lauren).
The Atlantic: The Vindication of Cheese, Butter, and Full-Fat Milk